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27 September 2010

A timely reminder. Coincidence, luck and miracles.





Writing my thoughts comes naturally to me, so does sitting on the sofa and doing nothing at all, it's all to easy for me to get distracted by my thoughts. I almost forgot about this blog.  This time I received a reminder from Kevin Kunz, find his blog here, a leading authority in reflexology, for more info here's a wikipedia link.  Kevin also has a very interactive facebook page, and his latest status about how 'all reflexolgists should become writers or risk their experiences being lost forever', provided me with some much needed inspiration. Call it coincidence, synchronicity, miracle messages or luck, but just as I was filing enthusiasm for my newly created blog to a blind corner of my brain, he posted that status update.

I thanked him, then upon reflection, realised once again, that most of my experiences are in fact a collection of co-incidences. Including recently one of my new friends in Denmark knowing a woman, who is about to open a new massage clinic, 5 minutes from my home, and just happens to be looking for a reflexologist.

Reflexology is quite popular in Denmark, my Søren even recalls his mother taking him to one when he was a child, over 30 years ago.  My decision to move here was made even easier knowing that my speciality is somewhat understood here.  In Melbourne I had struggled with the idea of where to set up business, again my sense of never really knowing where I belonged took over, so I preferred to do home visits, saw a few clients in my own home and also the few different clinics where I worked, as either a nurse or colon hydrotherapist.  I would often meditate or ponder the question of where to set up, and would only ever get the vague response that I should head North. Well Denmark is about as for North on the planet as you can get from Melbourne, and it still amuses me that I never guessed this far North was the answer.

I started reflexology in my late 20's, at a time when my stress levels were affecting my mental health, grounding myself and learning how to relax was a neccesity and became my number one priority.  I, like so many other people, once hated my feet with a passion, but working the feet seemed as logical a place as any to start the process of grounding and a much needed change because my head, heart (and hormones) were too messed up. As I was searching for the right course I co-incidently found a course for a hospital based nursing traineeship, that also paid me to study. So I studied nursing and reflexology at the same time and discovered that neither would have made much sense to me, if I had not balanced what I refer to as, health and healing, the science and art of medicine and wellbeing.  

Even though there is plenty of valid research, there is also a lot of skepticism about reflexology. I guess it makes no sense to some people that everything is connected.  A lot of what we do is felt, and it is not so easy to describe a feeling, but with a bit of practice it is a skill that anyone can learn to do. There is relatively little scientific evidence that supports the reflexes on the feet, however fMRI scans have proved that working an area of the foot activates the part of the brain that corresponds with the specific part of the body related to that reflex, fMRI test results. Simarlarily, Father Josef, another leading reflexologists, discusses in his courses the chinese autopsies that have also revealed a hardening of specific reflexes related to illnesses people have died from. Perhaps for some, everytime a reflexologist pin points a significant ailment or emotion, through the feet, can be described as miracle or coincidence, but the accuracy of these so called coincidences is a science in itself.  Like the time I could only feel one kidney reflex on a client and discovered later that she had her kidney removed some 50 years earlier, to name just one example.

Coincidences, luck and miracles really are the same thing.  Meeting someone at the right time is  both a co-incidence and a miracle. We can brush these situations aside and realise nothing or embrace them as opportunites to learn from ourselves, the people around us, and perhaps even make a difference to the lives of many.  

30 March 2010

The risky decision. Following my heart and moving to Denmark

I have decided to move to Denmark, I haven't yet decided on a date, but everything is pointing to flying back with my sweetheart Søren (pronounced Soeren) on May the 13th, 2010. After searching deep and questioning the people that surround me, my final decision is based on the fact that the only thing riskier then taking such an adventurous risk is NOT taking a risk at all.

So it is time to arrange moving to a foreign country, consider learning a new and difficult language and giving my sweetheart the chance he wholeheartly requested and deserves...the chance to make ME happy.

Of course, as is my nature, I have decided to leave everything to the last minute. If I do move in May, there are only have a few weeks left to break up with so many of my other loves, like my country Australia, my city (I love Melbourne), my cute little apartment, friends and family, jobs as a teacher, reflexologist and nurse and most heartbreakingly my ageing parents, who are also immigrants, and know to well the distance between the two hemispheres is enormous.

This romance may seem sudden to some, but it actually started 12 years ago when we worked on a ship together, and neither of us even had email addresses. He claims that is when he first fell in love, though I didn't recognise it. He even proposed to me, I was distracted and didn't take it seriously. Sadly there was an 11 year gap before we were re-united again through facebook, and msn, and now Skype gratefully has become a part of our daily lives. In this last 12 months we have written over a thousand pages of notes, emails and instant chats to each other, and spent several hours every day discussing, comtemplating, sharing our thoughts, dreams and truthfully revealing all our fears. He has travelled here once and arranged for me to travel to Denmark, in the worst winter they have had for decades, to meet all of his family. Despite the distance between us, from the moment he expressed his desire to be together and I gave him the green light to pursue his dreams, I have felt like he is right beside me the whole time. It is this process and his dedication, that has slowly but surely convinced me that he is not a sad lonely stalker but the sweetest and most perfect man, for this once absolutely confirmed single forever, free spirited, adventourous but somewhat weary and battered soul of mine.

In this blog, I hope to catalogue our meeting, and share my experience of love and relationships, and of course the journey to and from here. I guess that covers everything from my family, my youth, growing older and of course the adventure and challenges of being an expat.

Right now though, I'm at work [@ the Colon Care Clinic http://www.coloncareclinic.com.au/,  - the buzzer is about to buzz, so until next time, which at this rate might not be until I touch down in Denmark (whenever that will be!) I will leave you with Søren's fave quote.

"If you want something bad enough you will find the way to get it."

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