tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5509673636575711646.post7482962434923663034..comments2023-09-05T11:23:13.626+02:00Comments on Reflex Reactions1: Conflicted. #atozchallenge Care for the carers.Ida Thoughthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5509673636575711646.post-22729084040381451662015-04-09T01:25:27.575+02:002015-04-09T01:25:27.575+02:00.... and visions of you running to the donut shop
....... and visions of you running to the donut shop<br />Ida Thoughthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5509673636575711646.post-56548410176565854512015-04-09T01:25:05.965+02:002015-04-09T01:25:05.965+02:00See tears just come at the most unexpected moments...See tears just come at the most unexpected moments... when I first saw your comment show up in my emails and again now when I find the time to comment... the words 'so happy to smell it' got me twice :) Ida Thoughthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5509673636575711646.post-43072695778596564622015-04-09T01:23:43.761+02:002015-04-09T01:23:43.761+02:00it was indeed a privilegeit was indeed a privilegeIda Thoughthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5509673636575711646.post-31667944027347380402015-04-09T01:23:12.087+02:002015-04-09T01:23:12.087+02:00Harder than I realised at times, but also expected...Harder than I realised at times, but also expected. The nurses in the palliative care team said it was often easier for families with carers with no medical experience because there is a bliss that comes from 'not knowing' Ida Thoughthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5509673636575711646.post-80493748306153257002015-04-09T01:21:35.548+02:002015-04-09T01:21:35.548+02:00It's so nice to be able to hear other peoples ...It's so nice to be able to hear other peoples stories that have a deep understanding - thanks HilaryIda Thoughthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15479961947050289284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5509673636575711646.post-74842216379051603822015-04-06T00:36:24.242+02:002015-04-06T00:36:24.242+02:00I remember all of these points when my Dad was dyi...I remember all of these points when my Dad was dying and my brother who was brain dead for quite some time before his death. My Dad stopped eating and I remember asking him on the day he died (he was lucid right up to about five min before he died) if I could get him anything... he said... "Y'know those Boston Creme Donuts? I cant eat it but I wouldnt mind a wiff of one right now...." I ran to a donut shop and got him one... He was so happy to smell it ! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11630958840521397718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5509673636575711646.post-62888292269821542762015-04-05T00:40:40.397+02:002015-04-05T00:40:40.397+02:00The "quality of life" issue. Always a t...The "quality of life" issue. Always a tough one. Glad you had that privilege and that your realized that it was one. Too many see it as a burden they carry.<br /><a href="http://lifefaithincaneyhead.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Life & Faith in Caneyhead</a><br /> I am Ensign B ~ One of <a href="http://authorstephentremp.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Tremp's Troops</a> with the <br /><a href="http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/" rel="nofollow">A to Z Challenge</a><br />Barbara In Caneyheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06053601327400989802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5509673636575711646.post-9512745432595957582015-04-04T19:10:49.062+02:002015-04-04T19:10:49.062+02:00Powerful post Ida thank you. Conflicting emotions ...Powerful post Ida thank you. Conflicting emotions to the fore. Those who do not want her to go and you who knows her time is nigh. Hard...Susan Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12041548718544123557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5509673636575711646.post-38385570627335610982015-04-04T16:28:02.703+02:002015-04-04T16:28:02.703+02:00Hi Ida - it is a difficult time and we certainly g...Hi Ida - it is a difficult time and we certainly get feelings of conflict. I'm so lucky my mother was able to communicate - but I avoided talking to her about anything that I didn't think she'd want to talk about .. and as she wasn't able to eat or drink .. we avoided food and tea/coffee type talk .. <br /><br />You're so right .. it's working out what won't upset them - yet being there for our beloved dear ones (in our case - our mothers) - sensitivity and empathy are so essential .. cheers HilaryHilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.com